THE FRIEND ZONE: SHOULD YOU GET OUT OF IT?

Imagine you've met someone who makes your heart race a little bit, and you're excited about the potential of a romantic relationship. You spend time together, share laughs and get to know each other, but then you hear those dreaded words: "I think we're better off as friends." Suddenly, you find yourself in the friend zone. This can be a tough spot, especially when your feelings aren't reciprocated in the way you hoped. But let's explore why the friend zone happens and how it can actually be beneficial. 😏

Why Do You Get Friend-Zoned?

Understanding the dynamics between sexual energy and heart energy is crucial. If you project too much sexual energy, you might come across as a player, only interested in fulfilling physical needs—the "F*ck-Boy." Conversely, if you show only heart energy, "Mr. Nice Guy," you might be seen as just a friend. Striking a balance between these energies can help potential partners see you as both a friend (heart energy) and a romantic interest (sexual energy). Yes, you read that right - I said you are supposed to be both a friend and a romantic interest. Indeed, a high-quality romantic relationship is built on a solid friendship because a good friendship is the cornerstone of the emotional connection in a romantic relationship.

My Personal Share about the Friend Zone

I've experienced both sides of the friend zone—placing others in it and being placed there myself. Over the years, I've found that the men in my friend zone are some of the most trusted and valued people in my life. They provide a sense of protection and honest male energy that you can't get from someone who's only interested in being a "F*ck-Boy." Never underestimate the power of a strong friendship; it can be one of the most reliable and supportive relationships you'll ever have.

A Word about Situationship

When a woman has sex, she releases oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone. So even though she may cognitively understand that she is in a situationship, if the sexual connection is consistent and ongoing, eventually, feelings or a bond will develop, even if they’re not relationship compatible. However, when a man has sex, he releases testosterone, and oxytocin is only released if he develops an emotional connection. If he is a player, he might then friend-zone a woman he has had an ongoing situationship with because now sex isn’t just about feeling good anymore, leaving both people with unmet emotional needs.

Something to Think About...

If I were looking for a casual fling or a fun playmate, I'd definitely start in the friend zone. Attraction can grow over time, but diving straight into the F*ck-Boy/Brat zone doesn't give much chance for something meaningful. The friend zone might not be as thrilling as the Fuck-Boy, but don't underestimate the confidence, quality and amazing connection that can happen when two good people choose each other.

Who is the gem in your friend zone? Perhaps it’s time to think outside the box and inside the friend zone. 💎